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Miranda Writes: Are You Dull? Part 1

by Omar Miranda

Last week we completed a series on sex and porn addiction. I wanted to follow up and share with you some basic principles of Christian accountability. These principles, paired with your daily connection with Jesus, are super important, and if done daily, they will give you a good foundation to keep you free and clean from sex and porn addiction for the rest of your life.

“I’m peeping sore!” my daughter whined from the back of the car. My daughter makes up her own words (oh, to be 7 years old again!). My wife chimed in and complained about her soreness. I adjusted the rearview mirror and checked on my son. He was dead asleep. You know the kind of sleep I’m talking about: the open mouth, drooling, eyes half open, waking up confused about where you are—that kind of sleep. That weekend was momentous because I couldn’t remember the last time I myself had been so sore. It even hurt me to think!
We had just completed an afternoon hike at a place called Johns Mountain. The place was absolutely beautiful. The hike had started out flat, but that quickly changed. I remember the conversation we had had about this trip a week earlier. My wife had sung the praises of the hike. “Oh, it’ll be good for us—all the fresh air and nature.”

“I’m cool with fresh air and nature, but I don’t do well with inclines,” I responded. The rest was history. My wife alleges that she carefully “researched” this place to make sure that I would not have a medical emergency while exercising. Boy, was she wrong. Just as an aside: is it possible for internal organs to explode?

I also had to worry about falling off the edge of the trail, because it was on the side of a mountain. We weren’t just hiking around the mountain; we were hiking the mountain! At one point I actually considered lying down and “resting” and letting the emergency helicopter and the specially trained wilderness rescuers come and get me, but there wouldn’t have been any room on the “billy goat trail,” or BGT, as I call it. I’m serious! That trail was so narrow in places that you had to hop on one foot just to get through.

It was crazy enough that I went on the trail, but then I had my 2½-year-old son with me. He wanted to run! That’s right, he wanted to run up the trail, and I had to hold on to him. Many times he was so energetic that he almost fell off the side of the trail and down the mountain. There were also many times that I kept him from slipping or tripping on a rock and splitting his wig. Other times my wife helped by encouraging me and pushing me along. Usually this was less in the form of a physical push and more through a medium that she has perfected: the verbal putdown, or as I—and our marriage counselor—call it: verbal abuse! OK, I’m kidding—we don’t really have a marriage counselor. But I digress.

The hike of horror was finally finished, and I calmed my heart rate enough to be able to think coherently again. (My wife disputes this statement and asserts that I have never thought coherently. But I am perfectly sane—I have the actual papers from the psychiatrist stating that I am. Hey, don’t judge me! Everybody gets stressed to the point that they take commands from avocados and dryer lint! Whoops, now I’m off the subject again.)

When I was able to think clearly again—you know, after rehydrating with the ER’s intravenous fluids and all—I got to thinking about the importance of having somebody to go through this difficult life with. Somebody who could travel this crazy trail we call life on earth. Somebody who could support you and hold your hand to keep you from tripping and falling off the side of the mountain. God is there, no doubt, and He supports us through all of our rough times. He supports us through His Holy Spirit, who speaks to us in many ways, including through our conscience, through our time with Him reading and studying the Bible, and through prayer. But there are also times He supports, guides, and directs us through His people. That’s why it is so important for us as Christians to connect with fellow believers. The Bible says: “You are better off to have a friend than to be all alone, because then you will get more enjoyment out of what you earn. If you fall, your friend can help you up. But if you fall without having a friend nearby, you are really in trouble. If you sleep alone, you won’t have anyone to keep you warm on a cold night. Someone might be able to beat up one of you, but not both of you. As the saying goes, ‘A rope made from three strands of cord is hard to break’” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, CEV).*

Interestingly enough, God makes it clear that to get through this life you need both Him and others. None of us makes it through life by ourselves, with God only, or with just others. Success comes only in the combination of you, me, and G-O-D! So when you begin to feel sad, depressed, anxious, or stressed, take time to check to make sure that you are not isolating yourself. If you are connected both with God and with others, I promise that even though you may not be able to get off the mountain, God and your godly friends will make the hike a lot more manageable than if you were doing it by yourself.

What does this have to do with accountability? Find out next week when we’ll continue our discussion on Christian accountability, specifically in relation to sex and porn addiction. You’ll see what I mean by the title of this series, “Are You Dull?”

Until next time, remember these things: God’s way is always the best way. Life is full of decisions, so make yours good ones. Put God first in your life, and you can’t go wrong.

Feel free to contact me: you can e-mail me at; or you can keep up with me on Facebook; or you can read more of my stuff on Miranda Writes, at; or you can check me out or send me a message at my Web site,; or you can reach me via snail mail (slow!) at the address printed below.

In Christ,
Omar Miranda, certified Christian counselor
Abundant Life Ministries
155 Earl Street
Plainville, GA 30733
Phone: 1-770-354-2912

* Scripture quotations identified CEV are from the Contemporary English Version. Copyright © American Bible Society 1991, 1995. Used by permission.

Omar Miranda is a Christian counselor with 20 years’ experience working with youth in public and private middle and high schools. He’s married and has two kids. He enjoys teaching the youth at his church, reading, writing, gardening, and camping. He’s a recovering knucklehead who spent a lot of time in the past doing stupid stuff away from God. He’s been back with God for years now and is eager to share what he’s learned from his experiences by answering any questions you may have about life, the Christian life, Jesus, spiritual matters, and relationships in his column, Miranda Writes.

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