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Miranda Writes: Facing Homosexuality, Part 5




by Omar Miranda

Is Homosexuality Damaging?

This week we’ll look at the question Is homosexuality damaging? If so, then in what ways—spiritually, emotionally, and physically?

The Bible makes it really clear that homosexuality is a sin. And God hates sin—all sin. To Him, there is no difference in the kinds of sin that there are, because all sin separates us from God, and the consequence for sin will always be death (Romans 3:23; 6:23). However, it may surprise you to know that all sin is not equal in its effects, and there are some sins that are more damaging to us and to our relationships with God and with others. King David discussed this quite specifically as he described the physical, spiritual, and emotional pain that he went through related to his sexual sin. Read Psalm 51, and you will see the full spectrum of negative consequences that David went through.

King Solomon, David’s son, relates this interesting little tidbit in Proverbs 6:26-35. Granted, he’s speaking about sexual sin related to having sexual relations with another man’s wife, but the context is one of a sexual sin: “A woman who sells her love can be bought for as little as the price of a meal. But making love to another man’s wife will cost you everything. If you carry burning coals, you burn your clothes; if you step on hot coals, you burn your feet. And if you go to bed with another man’s wife, you pay the price. We don’t put up with thieves, not even with one who steals for something to eat. And thieves who get caught must pay back seven times what was stolen and lose everything. But if you go to bed with another man’s wife, you will destroy yourself by your own stupidity. You will be beaten and forever disgraced, because a jealous husband can be furious and merciless when he takes revenge. He won’t let you pay him off, no matter what you offer” (CEV).¹

The apostle Paul tells us clearly that the consequences of sexual sin are far-reaching and many times can be the most damaging to ourselves.

1 Corinthians 6:18 states: “Don’t be immoral in matters of sex. That is a sin against your own body in a way that no other sin is” (CEV). And recent research on the interaction of brain chemicals related to bonding and attachment (remember what we covered several weeks ago when we discussed sex, attraction, attachment, and bonding?) proves this biblical passage to indeed be fact. These chemicals play an important role in how our romantic relationships are formed.

When it comes to our emotions, there is a ton of research that shows that folks involved in homosexual behavior—whether thinking or acting on it—generally have an increased risk and incidence of depression, anxiety, and suicidal feelings.

Last, the actual physical issues related to homosexual practices are extremely serious. Many people believe that God specifically gave homosexual men HIV/AIDS because of their sexual practices. They cite the following passage out of Romans 1:27: “And the men, instead of having normal sexual relations with women, burned with lust for each other. Men did shameful things with other men, and as a result of this sin, they suffered within themselves the penalty they deserved” (NLT).² I personally don’t believe that God did this specifically. Science tells us that the HIV virus was initially found among homosexual men and spread like wildfire because of homosexual men’s sexual practices; however, science has also found that the HIV strain, which causes AIDS, is a crazy, genetic abnormality/mutation. Did it come directly from God? I can’t imagine that God would willingly wipe out a group of people, but He’s done it before. Don’t believe me? Genesis 6:5-7 says: “The Lord saw how bad the people on earth were and that everything they thought and planned was evil. He was very sorry that he had made them, and he said, ‘I’ll destroy every living creature on earth! I’ll wipe out people, animals, birds, and reptiles. I’m sorry I ever made them’” (CEV). We’ll never know the mind of God, but this I do know: if you use your body in a way that God didn’t intend it to be used, bad things can only be the result!

(WARNING: This next paragraph is extremely sexually graphic, but is written for educational purposes. I don’t mean it to be this way, but I don’t know any other way to explain this information in an honest and responsible way, so I’ll just be open and clear. I teach this information all the time to teens and their parents either individually or together, so here goes.)

 Here’s the bottom line: The parts don’t fit. God never created and wanted two male reproductive organs to be used together for sex, nor did he create and want two female reproductive organs to be used for sex. There are several serious physical concerns. I will name just a few as clearly and honestly as I can:
• The tissues of the penis and the anus are extremely thin and are prone to tearing and abrasions—which translates into increased incidence of infection and pain. On the other hand, the tissue and design of the vagina is made to endure the stretching and rigors of childbirth.

• Also, in terms of anal sex, the insertion of the penis or any other object into an anus many times can cause fecal impaction, diarrhea, prolapsed anus (turned inside out), and hemorrhoids (because of the suction created by anal sex).

Here’s the important fact about physical consequences of homosexual practices: If you do something outside of what God has created something to be, there will always be negative consequences. Be sure to follow all of God’s laws and do what He tells you to do, because as we’ve said before, when God says “Don’t,” what He’s really saying is “Don’t hurt yourself!” God never meant for a guy to like a guy—not in that way; nor did He mean for a girl to like a girl in that way either. This brings us to this very important issue: If you’re feeling that way or know somebody who is, please get in contact with us at Insight right away; we can give you resources and help you to find answers to your questions. You can always write or call me directly. Every week you get my contact information. Please don’t hesitate to call. I’d love to speak with you about whatever’s going on.

Well, next week we’ll be discussing these two important issues: How do you get out of a lifestyle of homosexuality? And How can you help someone get out of a lifestyle of homosexuality?

Until next time, remember these things: God’s way is always the best way. Life is full of decisions, so make yours good ones. Put God first in your life, and you can’t go wrong.

Feel free to contact me: you can e-mail me at omarmiranda@earthlink.net; or you can keep up with me on Facebook; or you can read more of my stuff on Miranda Writes, at www.insightmagazine.org; or you can check me out or send me a message at my Web site, thriveatlife.org; or you can reach me via snail mail (slow!) at the address printed below.

In Christ,
Omar Miranda, certified Christian counselor
Abundant Life Ministries
155 Earl Street
Plainville, GA 30733
Phone: 1-770-354-2912

1Scripture quotations identified CEV are from the Contemporary English Version. Copyright © American Bible Society 1991, 1995. Used by permission.
 2Scripture quotations marked NLT are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996, 2004, 2007 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.

Omar Miranda is a Christian counselor with 20 years’ experience working with youth in public and private middle and high schools. He’s married and has two kids. He enjoys teaching the youth at his church, reading, writing, gardening, and camping. He’s a recovering knucklehead who spent a lot of time in the past doing stupid stuff away from God. He’s been back with God for years now and is eager to share what he’s learned from his experiences by answering any questions you may have about life, the Christian life, Jesus, spiritual matters, and relationships in his column, Miranda Writes.





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