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What’s the Rush?

by Sara Plaisted

Hey, are you going to great lengths to get attention from the opposite sex? Why? There’s no rush!

 Like most females in today’s society, I love to shop. No doubt about it, some of my most memorable times are walking through the mall with my mom and sister. It’s so great to walk into stores and look at all the new or “rerun” fashions—nice ones and silly ones—then jump for joy when I find a good deal.

I’m also a bit of a people watcher, and, of course, there are lots of people, often hundreds, walking through the mall on a Sunday. How can you miss them?
Turning to speak to my mom on one such Sunday, I looked to see where I was going just in time to avoid bumping into a young woman we’ll call Ms. Sophisticated. Quietly accepting my apology while looking off to the side and down a bit, she quickly slipped away.
I heard her pointy-heeled shoes click on the floor in her haste, and I saw her professional pantsuit flap gently against her shapely frame. She wore her hair in the latest style, simple makeup, and little jewelry. She appeared to be trying not to be noticed. But how can you miss a girl so fashionable yet clean-cut?
I kept walking as I contemplated how many young women her age were like that.
As my mom, sister, and I continued walking, we spotted a sign announcing a jean sale at Express. Having adopted a more casual style, and since sales always interest me, I decided to check it out.
When I entered the store, someone else caught my attention, someone totally different  from Ms. Sophisticated. As I checked the price on the “relaxed fit” jeans, her loud laughter interrupted my mental calculations. Turning slightly to avoid letting her and the other girls with her know that I was looking at them, my eyes came to rest on Ms. Flirtatious.
Surrounded by other girls, she laughed and talked loudly, pausing occasionally to smile sweetly at a young man worthy of her title: “Hot.” Thick mascara covered her long lashes and silver eye shadow accented her eyes. A shirt three sizes too small clung to her curvy body, stopping just above her pierced belly-button and her hip-hugger jeans, which seemed too tight for her to move. Ms. Flirtatious’s jewelry, though cheap, was fashionable, not to mention excessive. Her hair-cut was perfect for her sexy look.
I wondered how people can be so totally different from one another, such as Ms. Sophisticated and Ms. Flirtatious. Then I started thinking about how much they are also alike.
After giving it a lot of thought, I have come to the conclusion that these two kinds of girls do share some characteristics. First of all, both of them are obviously interested in male attention. On the surface, only Ms. Flirtatious seems interested in a man. But I noticed, too, that  even Ms. Sophisticated would smile sweetly at a good-looking guy.
Ms. Sophisticated, probably naturally shy, may feel a bit awkward and clumsy being bubbly like Ms. Flirtatious. It’s just that these two types of young ladies have slightly different ways of communicating. This isn’t the only characteristic they share.
Finding a place
Both kinds of young women are trying to find their place in society, just as are many of us young people. The two kinds of girls aren’t quite sure what maturity is, but they really want to fit in.
Another thing that unites them is that they’ve both learned to blend in with a certain crowd based on fashion. Ms. Sophisticated chooses to go with the more professional-looking crowd, because she feels it makes her more important. At the same time, Ms. Flirtatious is afraid that if she’s more withdrawn or quiet, no one will notice her. So she tries to fit in with the showy, party crowd, in which she thinks she can have fun, and more people—especially guys—will notice her.
I came to the conclusion that both types of girls feel insecure and are trying to be something they’re not for the sake of fitting in.
I know that as young people we have a tendency to do whatever it takes to fit in and get noticed. Girls will wear super-low jeans, deep V-necks, skintight shirts, and miniskirts with leggings. Guys will wear hoodies, T-shirts that are too big, and baggy pants beyond super-low. And while guys don’t put on all the makeup that girls do, some will still try to act “macho” to get attention.
And we profess to be Christians who want to follow God? After all, God says: “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed” (Romans 12:2, NKJV).* “Glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s” (1 Corinthians 6:20, NKJV). “Do not let your adornment be merely outward” (1 Peter 3:3, NKJV).
Young people, we don’t have to be like everyone in the world, nor do we have to try to attract attention from members of the opposite sex. We must trust that God will bring into our lives the right person at the right time. In the meantime, let’s ask God to help us become the person He wants us to be. 
If you’re not sure what kind of person that is, check out Galatians 5:22-24 and other Bible passages. Get advice from Godly adults that you trust, such as your parents or your youth pastor. And, focus on the sacrifice Jesus made for you. It will change you!
From my experiences I’ve learned that it’s best just to be yourself in any crowd. I know I am a quieter, more casual girl that likes good, clean fun, preferably outdoors. When I go to the mall, or anywhere else, I don’t try to be loud or showy, but I also don’t try to dress up really nice and give a cute look or sweet smile to any good-looking male who walks by.
I don’t need to be noticed. None of us do. That’s because “eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him” 
(1 Corinthians 2:9). As much as this text can refer to heaven, I think it can also refer to things about our lives here on earth, including our relationships.
Yes, there will probably come a day when a young man may be interested in getting to know me, but I am not going to rush that day. God knows the right time for this to happen, and I can be secure in Him until that day. Can you?
*Texts credited to NKJV are from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1979, 1980, 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Sara Plaisted is hoping to someday become an emergency room physician. In the meantime, she enjoys spending time with her family, being active outdoors, singing for God, and doing community service. 

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