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Posted by Teenager on Jun 2 2012 9:57PM

I just recently started going out with a non adventist. I really like them but I have strong feelings for my best friend at my church. The best friend is moving and I want to wait until college until I date them because I potentially want to marry them. Is it wrong that I am dating the nonadventist?

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- Re: Boyfriend vs Friendfrom V, Aug 21 2012 9:06PM
I think you need to ask yourself why your dating him. I mean if your going with because your sort of like him, but mostly just to be dating, I think you should definitely wait till your older and more mature. I think you shouldn't date non adventist because in general they will not have the same standards and goals as you do. I think you should pray about it and not make any rash decisions. God sees the big picture.

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- Re: Boyfriend vs Friendfrom shameera, Jun 18 2012 12:58AM
hi! I'm a teenage girl from Philippines..hmmm..yeah, i'd like to agree with Tom. Going out with someone else while having that future plans will just make things complicated. How wonderful it is if you won't get yourself "uncovered" with the person you don't trully want to be withm in the first place.. Pray more. It surely can help a lot!

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- Re: Boyfriend vs Friendfrom Lloyd Caudill, Jun 8 2012 7:28PM
Have you studied the Bible on the subject? Do not even date!Know yourself. Spend all your energy intensely getting to really know God on a personal basis. Men of your seeming age bracket Are less mature (on the whole) than you. Feelings are often deceptive, even at my advanced age! Beware of them! Your dress and deportment should tell all wishy suiters to keep a LONG distance away! You may need to cry (literally) out to God for diliverance. He will! He is safe; Fall in love with Him so He can lead you to YOUR man (if God has one for you).

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- Re: Boyfriend vs Friendfrom Tom (asst. editor, Insight), Jun 5 2012 5:43AM
Also, I don't think it's a good idea to be going out with someone when you have plans to get with someone else in the future. It just strings the current person along (like using them, really), and it can hurt feelings--theirs, yours, your best friend's. Pray about this. Ask God to help you do what needs to be done (which in my opinion is kindly ending your current romantic relationship and then focusing on what you need to do in your own life to grow spiritually, emotionally, mentally, academically, etc. Get prepared for life, and when the right time for romance comes (perhaps with your best friend from church, or whomever God has in mind for you), let God lead. I'm praying for you!

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- Re: Boyfriend vs Friendfrom Tom (asst. editor, Insight), Jun 5 2012 5:32AM
Here's what I think (in a nutshell): If you and your best friend from church have strong feelings for each other, and you're waiting until college to pursure a relationship, then don't jeopardize that by going out with someone else. Sure, getting with this new person might feel exciting and fun, but it can (and likely will) throw a wrench in your future plans with your best friend from church. Just be friends with the non-Adventist; don't get romantic with them. I think waiting until college to date your best friend is a great idea, too.

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