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is it wrong?

Posted by michelle on Mar 13 2011 9:09AM

I have this ex boyfriend and we have been sneaking around for the past few months, i was just wondering if it is wrong that we are doing stuff. We arent having sex but we are doing everything else, is that wrong?

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- Re: is it wrong?from Taciana, Mar 29 2011 3:30PM
It's my first time visiting that website, and I must say that its probably God who has guided me here. Ive been in a relationship for now 4 years with my Adventist bf (I also am).we go to the same church and even participate to bible studies (we also run one). For the first 2 yrs, it seldom happened that we would physically touch etc put it would go beyond a certain point.But now, it getting closer and closer to ''the act''. I read at Tom's advices and they seem really good. As for the breaking up part, i dont think it applies to my case. we see eachother married in the future (2-3 yrs)after we finish school and are financially stable. But in the meantime, we have physical needs, and we've been waiting for so long....Anyway, Ill take your advices and if you have some more for our particular situation, feel free to post them. thank you

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- Re: is it wrong?from Michelle, Mar 25 2011 4:32AM
Ok so me and this guy ended yesterday it is still a bitter sweet thing, you know. But God has someone out there that is better for me. Me and this guy are still friends though and he feels sorry that he ever put me through that, please pray for him, I know that we can still be friends, but I would like for you to pray that he will find God and see that he is right there. He told me himself that he didnt want my relationship with God to fail, but to progress, I pray the same for him, he is a great guy, we just fell into temptation. Thank you so much Tom.

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- Re: is it wrong?from Tom, Mar 23 2011 5:48AM
Praise God! I'm so happy the advice was helpful to you, Michelle. Stick close to God during all of this and He will get you through.

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- Re: is it wrong?from Michelle, Mar 22 2011 4:11PM
wow Tom that advice that you told me to look at was exactly what I needed, thank you so much. I prayed today that God would give me a clear answer about whether what I was doing was wrong and if I needed to stop or not, thanks, your advice to me was an answer to prayer and it is much appreciated :)

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- Re: is it wrong?from Tom, Mar 22 2011 8:39AM
Part 2: Remember: God LOVES you no matter what, and He can clean even the messiest stuff. If you're worried about being pure, remember: God is always ready to purify those who seek His cleansing (see 1 John 1:9). And we ALL need His cleansing, right? I include myself here (Rom. 3:23). I hope this helps. If this isn't what you were asking about, just let me know and I'll take another stab at it. And thank you for being open.

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- Re: is it wrong?from Tom, Mar 22 2011 8:37AM
Part 1: Well, God looks beyond the physical, right? He looks at what is going on in our mind and heart. It sounds like you're wondering if God still views you as a virgin. Allow me to point you to some helpful advice from Shayna here on our Web site. In the Advice section, click on "View all Shayna's questions." Then find and read "What is wrong with foreplay?" and "How far is 'too far'?" Please read these and prayerfully consider what they have to say.

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- Re: is it wrong?from Michelle, Mar 21 2011 7:29AM
Sorry I forgot to leave my name, its still michelle. Im asking if God sees what we are physically doing, even though we arent going all the way, does he still see it as 'all the way'?

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- Re: is it wrong?from Tom, Mar 21 2011 6:09AM
To the person who asked me: "Does God see what we're doing as 'all the way' or just something that we shouldn't be doing?"--I'm not sure what you are asking here. Please clarify. Thank you. :)

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- Re: is it wrong?from n/a, Mar 18 2011 11:24AM
I understand where your coming from Tom, but does God see what we are doing as "all the way" or just something that we shouldnt be doing?

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- Re: is it wrong?from n/a, Mar 18 2011 8:46AM
i don't see why you have to sneak around. My advice would be to just not have sex

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