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November 3, 2006

Ultimately, though, I know that there is a reason for taking breathing periods. Without them, we drag our issues from old relationships into our new ones. We donít think about how weíve changed and who we really are. We donít plan how to do better next time.

More than that, breathing periods give us time to consult with God. To find out what He would want for us. After all, of the important things weíre supposed to be careful with, Proverbs 4:23 says, "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life."

I am still vacillating between joy, pain, anger, regret, and thankfulness when I think about my relationship with Navin. It would be unfair for me dump this rollercoaster of emotions into a new person's lap. Or worse, to wrap him up in the maelstrom by expecting him to distract me from my feelings.

Besides all of this, though, I liked Navin as a person in addition to loving him as a boyfriend. For this reason alone, he [and every other person Iíve ever dated] deserve my respect even now that the relationship has ended. I mean, how else can you achieve healing and resolution if you donít take the time to grieve something that was, at some point, really good? We all deserve to remember the good along with the bad.

It will still be a while before Iím dating again, so unfortunately, I wonít be writing about interesting dates with exotic people anytime soon. Until then, I know Someone pretty amazing that I can occupy my time with.

- Re: Single in The City 1-3 from Stephen, December 15, 2006

This was an interesting take on being single, Im gald to see that the person giving advice has a good head on their shoulders. I also am not dating because I feel that there is no reason to enter a serious relationship and not be serious your self. I also understand being lonely so I use my free time accompanying girls that need a friend. That way being single can be fun.

- Re: (Continued...) from Shayna Bailey, November 8, 2006

I agree, Jen! Thanks for reading (and commenting!) -Shayna

- Re: (Continued...) from jen*, November 7, 2006

thanks for posting this. "single in the city" is really not a bad place to be. learning to enjoy life on your own is a benefit too many of us skip altogether...

- Re: (Continued...) from Shayna Bailey, November 6, 2006

Hi Eleanor, Thanks for the comment! Your commitment to wait is should be very proud of yourself! I know it's hard sometimes to go against the norm, but you're definitely not alone. Your courage is to be admired too! Be Blessed, Shayna :D

- Re: (Continued...) from Eleanor, November 3, 2006

I love and admire your courage. It insprires me cause I'm a senior in high school and I made the decision 1.5 years ago not to date till i have a reason why and I'm ready. Happy Sabbath!!

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