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Unequally yoked part 1

May 14, 2006

2 Corinthians 6:14 says, Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

For as long as I can remember, this text has been used to primarily teach that it was a no, no to marry, much less date, a non-believer (meaning a person who DIDN'T BELONG TO YOUR CHURCH). Read this carefully; I do not mean in ANY WAY, to disagree with Paul in the above scripture BUT I reject the connotations that have been taught using it and that is---marrying a person in your church MAKES YOU equally yoked!---This, in and of itself, is totally false! Half of ALL the marriages entered into end in divorce. The alarming truth about this is . . . the greater number of those failed marriages, are by people of the same denomination! Most people who marry follow some faith. The great majority of this country are Christian (go to church). So it stands to reason, that if half the marriages are ending in divorce in this "Christian" country, it MUST mean that marrying someone who you attend church with, isn't all there is to being equally yoked. . . right?

It's natural to believe the person you're dating, marrying or playing house with, is right for you, if you go to church together. I do not have the words to convey just how ABSOLUTELY DECEPTIVE this is! In fact, truth be told, it's easier to get involved in an unequally yoked relationship IN CHURCH than without! There must be some truth to this because HALF of all marriages end in divorce and the greater number of those marriages were by people of the same congregation. Church is a HUGE reason people get married . . . YET, just how eqaully yoked were these church couples?!?!?

Those who teach such a narrow and shallow point of view on this aught to be very ashamed! Life is far more complicated than that and to imply this Mickey Mouse point of view, that being with someone of your church is being "equally yoked" is criminal! Satan, uses failed "Christian" relationships to guide us into even more broken bonds of cruelty to unyoked relationship outside of the church. Of course, they never seem so to start with but being unequally yoked in or out the church is damaging. It's just that in the church, it's more so because you never expect it. Partly because you weren't taught of the possiblity, so you never see the devistation coming!

Let me end this part by saying that church attendance is important to a thriving, fulfilling God blessed relationship . . . BUT only as attendance is a reflection of faith and faith is discovered outside of the worship setting; as well as many other necessary traits of character.

50% of all marriages ending in divorce, tell us with certainty, that ALL, most church couples have in common with each other, is simply GOING to church . . . You're going to need ALOT more than that!

- Re: Unequally yoked part 1 from Karen, November 4, 2006

Thank you for this article. I needed to read/hear a sensible voice this morning. I am in an unequally yoked marriage. As I understand God's Principles for our lives. It can be a challenge at times to accept my husband's lack of fellowship and worship. We grew up with different faiths. I have explored and discovered a faith that makes sense to me. He is adamant on holding on to his, although he no longer practices that religion. Do continue to write and pray for ones like myself and my husband. Your sister in Christ, Karen

- Re: Unequally yoked part 1 from Robert Swan, May 23, 2006

Devastation of divorce messes up kids. Parents should be given a test before reproduction as to whether they will stay together. God only knows how to enforce this. Say hi to Steve for me. Yours in Christ

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